Hey y’all. How’s it going? I’m a little bummed out right now. You know when Ravn had to leave Oneus? Something similar happened again recently. I feel like I might be cursed after all. Although it seemed silly to be devastated when Ravn left. If I was heartbroken, then I can’t imagine how he felt. Oneus meant a lot to me, and so do these people. I know however I’m feeling, it’s even worse for them.
At least I’ll still get to see them. I told them no one can get rid of me that easily. We didn’t see or hear from Raven for almost a year, and I think that made it worse because we didn’t even know if he was okay.
Is it wrong to be mad on behalf of another person? It’s not my problem, but it still affects me. There are lots of things in life like that. I saw a movie once that had this quote. I think it was called Herold and the Purple Crayon or something? The quote was something life, “Life isn’t something that just happens to you. It’s something you create”. I often feel like it’s just happening to me. Have you ever felt like that?
It’s easy to feel like God (or the universe) must hate me. Like, I can’t catch a break. But this situation made me realize something. It was the same thing that happened with Oneus. Tomoon weren’t the ones who got the short end of the stick. Ravn is the one who got screwed over. We were just collateral damage. We were the second-hand hurt that was the result of someone else’s misfortune. It’s like deja vu.
Ultimately, God (or the universe) isn’t going to ruin someone else’s life to punish me. He would come straight for me, and there wouldn’t be a shadow of a doubt about who was responsible for my misfortune. It would be personal – but that’s another thing I’ve realized. Oftentimes, things that I thought were God hating me or not caring were really just him helping me dodge a bullet. A not-so-gentle shove in a direction I didn’t know I was supposed to go.
Which brings me again to my main point. So, let’s talk about coping with collateral damage and how deal with the hurt that comes along with it. The answer is pretty simple. You have to find a way to make peace. Once you’ve cried it out, once you are done being angry, you have to make peace. Because no matter how hurt you are, it’s not personal. That doesn’t make it easy, but it’s something to work towards.
No matter how bad it sucks, you have the power to write the ending. The ending I wrote for Ravn is that I’m happy he’s happy, and they never told us whether or not the rumors were true, but he wouldn’t have been picked up by a subsidiary of RBW if the accusations were true. He’s making music, he found his happy ending, and that’s enough for me to try to let it go.
Anger may feel good, but it doesn’t heal. Acceptance and peace are what heal you, so I hope that whatever is going on in your life, you will write a happy ending. Once you are done being sad, choose peace. Thank you for reading this. Let me know your thoughts. Have you ever felt like collateral damage? Were you able to make peace with it? I would love to hear about it in the comments.
Life is hard, and sometimes it does feel like everything is against you. It’s a valid feeling; don’t ever think you are wrong for having feelings. They are something we can’t control; we just have to acknowledge and work through them. It’s not something that happens overnight, and the timeline is different for everyone.
I just wanted to throw that out there because it sounds so simple, but it’s anything but. I hope you are doing well. Till next time…
Sincerely,
LIBD
